It was all too much.
Another language. Separated from the sibling that they had known since conception. First time away from Mom. Sitting for three hours*.
All this change resulted in days filled with crying. Not participating in events. Excuses upon excuses. Escaping from class to go to the others classroom**.
Bottom line, he didn’t want to go school.
Not unusual given the circumstances. In fact, I was told that it can take three weeks for a child to adjust to such changes in routine. Even so, it didn’t make my heart hurt any less.
But, it’s not about me.
Why were we sending The Kids to school in the first place?**
Socialization. Culture. Language.
We listened to The Kids. They both wanted to go to school if they were in the same classroom.
We went back to the Director.
It was not to be.
So many thoughts ran through our mind…
If we leave one child in school, will the other one be jealous of all they’ve learned and/or time alone with Mom?
Will waiting a year for total immersion in the culture and language have a long-term affect on the child’s ability to learn the language?***
Will forcing them to go to school make them hate it in the end?
Can they even learn if they don’t want to be there?
You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.
After seeking professional guidance from those that know The Kids and taking their own feelings into account, as parents we made a decision…
Max will no longer go to school. Artemis will.
Only the future knows if we made the right decision.
Ever Had to Make a Major Decision Like This?
* We had no idea what school curriculum was like and no information was offered up. In fact, we still don’t know. I guess they just assume that we know. There are no toys in Artemis or Max’s room. He is required to sit at tables with 33 other kids and listen. The whole day. Except for a short recess period. A major difference from what Max has been accustomed to for four years.
*** Note that our desire to have The Kids speak Spanish is not solely based on our desire to have them just speak another language. Spanish is their Father’s Mother tongue and a part of who they are.